Sunday, August 4, 2013
After the Surgery!
Well it's been 16 weeks since the surgery! Alex is so much better and is scooting along on the floor and playing. I would like to take this opportunity to catch you up to date on what it has been like. We are going to go back to the first month he came home.
I am not going to sugar coat it. It was very very difficult. Difficult for many different reasons. One of the biggest worries as a mother was just moving him from the chair to the bed. I didn't know what was okay or what was going to hurt him. it was only a week since the surgery and we made a bed in the family room on the couch! My husband bless his heart slept out in the family with Alex, while I took care of my 3 year old Emma. Knowing what it was like from helping my sister Rebecca, I knew I had to turn Alex from side to side and on his back to prevent bed sores. He would wake up crying because he was in pain and I had to give him med. He was still on so many heavy medication. I had to find some way to keep track of it all. That was very difficult and overwhelming at first.
One way that helped me was, I had a big wipe board and on the left side I listed all his medications. Then I wrote down next to each medicine what time to administer the medicine. I wrote it out for a 24 hr period. I then crossed it out after I gave him the medication. This helped me not to have to think about giving him the wrong medication or at the wrong time. Every 24 hrs I wrote it out again. One less thing I really had to worry about.
I call the Dr's team and they were very helpful as to how to wean him off of the medication and they were very supportive if he could not come of them. I finally had my system down and Alex was weaned off the medications at a timely fashion.
This may sound crazy but changing his diaper was a real challenge as well. Due to all the pain medication he was on his bowl movements were all over the place and it took two people to help clean and change his diaper. I often times had to call on my wonderful neighbors to help come over and change his diaper. In time I had to learn to change it myself and let me tell you it was not fun. It was scary and overwhelming but I want to reassure you that it does get better! I promise!
Another worry was his weight. When he got home from the hospital his weigh dropped 5 pounds and for a little guy like Alex you could visibly see the difference. He went in at 35 pounds and came home and dropped to 30 pounds. That has been and still is a worry of mine. He is eating well now but still not gaining a lot of weight. I am hoping that as he is more mobile his appetite will grow as well as his stomach. The nutritionist that I called helped me out on some ideas. One of them was getting Instant Carnation Breakfasts as well as Pedi-assure for kids. I still give this to Alex and it has helped!
When he was feeling a little better near the end of the first month he staying in this wheel chair that we rented. The back would recline up and down. That helped a great deal. If you could rent one I suggest it a very much! This made him feel more independent and he was able to wheel himself around the house.
The second month he was in the chair he was very happy and even dancing around in the wheel chair.
I have to tell you that it was hard being stuck at home. I could not go anywhere for a very long time and here and there I had to go to the food store but that was at night time. You see Alex was not able to sit in a car seat and he had to lay in the back of the car with a special seat belt we borrowed from Shrines Hospital. I had my oldest child still in school. My friends from school were an amazing help picking him up from school and bringing him home.
Know that at this time in your life you have to depend on family and friends no matter what. They want to help when they can and you need their help. This is something you can't do by yourself no matter how much you want to. I have a 3 year old who was home all the time as well. My neighbor across the street was so kind and brought Emma and Eli a bag of things from Michael's to help keep them entertained. They also let me go out to Starbucks here and there as well. Much needed.
We have seen Dr. Davids twice now since the Surgery and he had us take an x-ray of his hips every time. It's one thing to know that he is healing it's a whole other things to see the healing process of his hips. As a mother seeing that his hips are healing helps with confidence in moving him in and out of the chair and in the chair to the ground. It is so amazing to me what he has done for Alex. I have such awe and respect for someone who can do such a wonderful thing!
Along with the recovery time is the Physical Therapy that I have to do to keep him from getting stiff. After my hip surgery when I was 3 years old ...my mom had to do the same stretches. Funny how it has come full circle!
At first I was unsure as to how far I needed to stretch. You see his legs were straight out for so long that I have to try to bend them as well as his hips and his ankles. At first they don't bend very fare at all. He also has problems with his tone in his legs and cl-onus in his feet (shaking). This has given
this task and extra added challenge. But as time goes by... I saw I could bend it more and more. It does take awhile but the more I did it the better for Alex. Now he can bend his knees all the way and his ankles the same. I still do it every day because he is not allowed to put any weigh on his hips yet.\
For those readers out there who are reading my blog and going through this right now, The stretches are really important for the healing process. It's something that you can't be too tired to do. There are some days that it was so hard and I was so tired but I kept at it and the results are there! Don't do these stretches unless the Dr. tell you to!
One last thing I have to mention. Though it seems like your world is you and your child... You do have a husband if your married that also needs to be apart of all of this. They might be working during the day but allow him to pitch in and help. Also you may be so tired from all the things you have had to do during the day but know that they need your attention as well. It does fill you up as well. Often times the husbands don't know what to do and how to help but they are part of the family as well and they need your guidance and encouragement as well in this whole healing process.
There is more to write about and I will soon. I as I remember things I will write and keep you up to date on Alex!
Note: July 3rd, 2013 he was cleared for the car seat and his wheel chair. We ended up driving up to Washington for the 4th of July. It was a fun trip!